Hexagram 44
44 · Gòu 姤

Coming to Meet

Heaven above
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Wind below
Translated from Richard Wilhelm's German (1924)

Introduction

The hexagram points to a situation in which the dark principle, after it has been removed, secretly and unexpectedly forces its way back in from within and below. The feminine comes of its own accord to meet the men. This is a dangerous situation, and not a favorable one, because of the possible consequences, which must be recognized in time and so prevented.
The hexagram is assigned to the fifth month (June-July), because with the summer solstice the dark principle gradually begins to rise again.

The Judgment

Coming to meet. The girl is powerful. One should not take such a girl in marriage.
The rise of what is petty is portrayed in the image of a brazen girl who offers herself lightly and in this way seizes power. That could not happen if what is strong and full of light did not, for its part, come to meet it as well. What is petty looks so harmless and ingratiating that one takes delight in it. It seems so small and weak that one thinks one can play with it without a care.
So the petty person rises only because the noble one considers them harmless and lends them power. If the petty person were opposed from the very beginning, they could never gain influence.
But the time of coming to meet also has another side, which deserves attention. Even if it must not be the rule for what is weak to come to meet what is strong, at times this is of great importance. When heaven and earth each come to meet the other, all creatures thrive. When prince and helper each come to meet the other, the world comes into order. A mutual coming to meet of the principles that are meant for each other and depend on each other is necessary. Only, it must be free of impure ulterior motives, or else it is harmful.

The Image

Under heaven the wind blows: the image of coming to meet. So the prince acts when spreading his commands and announcing them to all four quarters of heaven.
The situation is similar to that of hexagram 20, Contemplation (The View). There the wind blows across the earth, here under heaven. Both times it reaches everywhere. But there the wind was down on the earth, and that gave the image of the ruler taking note of conditions. Here the wind blows from above; this points to the influence the ruler exerts through his commands. Heaven lies far from the things on earth, but it sets them in motion through the wind. The ruler is far from the people, but he sets them in motion through his commands and the expressions of his will.

The Lines

First line, six
One must hold it back with a brake shoe of bronze. Persistence brings good fortune. If one lets it go on, one meets with misfortune. Even a lean pig is disposed by nature to rampage about.
When an inferior element has crept in, one must hold it back vigorously at once. By holding it back consistently, one can avoid bad effects. If one lets it run its course, misfortune is sure to come of it. One must not let the slightness of what creeps in tempt one into taking it too lightly. As long as a pig is still young and lean, it cannot rampage about much yet, but once it has eaten its fill and grown strong, its true nature comes out, unless one has kept it within bounds beforehand.
Second line, nine
There is a fish in the container. No fault. Not favorable for guests.
The lower element is not treated with violence, but kept under gentle control. Then there is nothing bad to fear. Only, one must see to it that it does not come together with those further off, because – let loose – it would develop its bad sides unchecked.
Third line, nine
There is no skin on the thighs, and walking is hard. If one keeps the danger in mind, one makes no great mistake.
One is inwardly tempted to get involved with the bad element that offers itself. This is a very dangerous situation. Fortunately, circumstances prevent one from doing so. One would like to, but cannot. This makes for a painful indecision in one's actions. But if one sees clearly how dangerous the situation is, one will at least avoid greater mistakes.
Fourth line, nine
There is no fish in the container. From this, misfortune arises.
One must bear with the common people so that they remain well disposed toward one. Then one can also make use of them when one needs them. If one becomes estranged from them and does not come to meet them, they turn away from one, and one does not have them at one's disposal when one needs them. But then one has only oneself to blame.
Fifth line, nine
A melon wrapped in willow leaves: hidden lines. Then down from heaven it falls to one.
Like the fish, the melon symbolizes the dark principle. It is sweet but rots easily, which is why it is wrapped in willow leaves to protect it. The situation is such that a strong, highly placed person who is inwardly firm protects, with forbearance, the lowly who are under their hand. Such a person has within themselves the firm lines of both order and beauty. But they do not assert them. They do not burden the lowly with outward show or tiresome admonitions, but leave them entirely free, firmly trusting in the power to transform from within that dwells in a strong and pure personality. And look! Fate is favorable. The lowly are influenced and fall to such a person like ripe fruit.
Top line, nine
With their horns they come to meet. Shame. No fault.
When one has withdrawn from the world, the bustle of the world often becomes unbearable. There are often people who, in noble pride, keep away from everything petty and thrust it back brusquely where it comes to meet them. People of this kind are reproached for being proud and unapproachable, but since they are no longer bound to the world by duties of action, that is no great harm. They can bear the aversion of the masses calmly.